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aims to fill the gaps in the existing CVE approach. The MFC
study collected the voices and perspectives of the individu-
als within civil society who have unique knowledge about
their children’s emotional lives and have witnessed first-hand
the pre-violence, pre-radicalization phase. The findings yield
two significant conclusions: the first is that the sources of
extremist ideologies are diverse and widespread and, there-
fore, building resilience from the ground up is essential for
prevention. And second, mothers, located at the heart of the
family, are the starting point for establishing this resilience.
Most trusted and knowledgeable, they are best placed to guide
the healthy development of their children, as well as the first
to recognize and react to early warning signs.
Mothers Schools have been implemented in communities
at risk across Tajikistan, India/Kashmir, Pakistan, Indonesia,
Nigeria and Zanzibar. SAVE, in partnership with local non-
governmental organizations, provides training and materials for
established local trainers in the target communities, who then
run a series of 10 workshops with groups of mothers over a
three-month period. The curriculum focuses on self-awareness
and applied parenting, emphasizing critical reflection on one’s
role in the family and in promoting security. It introduces the
distinct role women can play in addressing violent extremism,
covering topics of psychosocial processes of child development,
mediums and methods of radicalization, computer skills and
improved family communication. The workshops use dialogue
and interactive exercises to facilitate cooperative learning and
are centred on the mothers’ personal narratives.
The feedback from these initial Mothers Schools has indicated
significant strides in grass-roots security. As one mother stated:
“We did not know that the peace could be brought by just chang-
ing the way we speak to our children.” Another mother said: “I
think workshops like this should be started in other places as
well to give visions to the women who feel too weak to bring any
change; this gives us time to think beyond our home routine.”
These comments provide support that this model is needed and
also readily accepted. “Often we took out our frustrations out on
them and this was misplaced anger which we vented out on the
children. I made a conscious effort to bond with my children. I
started talking to them and listening to their grievances. I see a
major improvement. There is more peace in the house, bickering
has reduced, I am confident that they will respect me more and
I am capable of loving them more.”
Due to varying cultural barriers, many of these communities
lack formal and informal settings for mothers to share experi-
ences, seek advice and exchange mutual support about the
safety of their children. This inhibits the spread of informa-
tion and strengthens the taboo around religious and political
violence. Such silence and disconnection makes prevention
very difficult. So, in response, the Mothers School model
provides the necessary time and space for barriers to be broken
down and constructive dialogue to take place. “Here we can
share our problems and also look for solutions together and
learn from the experiences of other mothers of how they have
handled their own worries about their children’s activities.”
Moreover, mothers express the impact of the workshops on
their perspectives of their role in preventing political violence.
“We had no idea how a person becomes radicalized. Now I
will always check this in my children and even in other chil-
dren.” Another mother supported this: “We always think that
such discussions can only be among the educated and elite
people from high profile societies. But now we believe, after
exploring our skills that were with us always but unfortu-
nately on sleeping mode, that we can also become friends with
our children and help them to deal with any kind of support
so they don’t feel the need to look for any violent alternatives.”
Lost sons: a mother in Kashmir considers the cost of radicalization
De-radicalization at the kitchen table: a Mothers School in Tajikistan
Image: Women without Borders/SAVE
Image: Women without Borders/SAVE
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